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Repeating a Grade: The Pros and Cons
Grade retention or social promotion — which is best? Read what the experts have to say.
Has anyone at school talked to you about retaining your child in the same grade? Have you been thinking about whether your child should be promoted on to the next grade level?
Reasons for Retention Grade retention is a very difficult and emotionally charged decision. It may be considered when a child:
  • Has significant struggles making progress in reading, writing or math
  • Fails to reach performance levels expected for promotion to the next grade
  • Appears to be "immature" and "young" for her age
In many schools today, tests are being used to determine whether a child will go on to the next grade or repeat the same grade. With the current push for high educational standards, more and more kids are facing the possibility of retention because they're not achieving test scores required for promotion. Retention is viewed as a way to ensure greater accountability — to guarantee the school is doing its job. In some cases, it's the new "get tough" policy to stop or reduce "social promotion" — automatically passing a child on to the next grade at the end of each school year.
Outcomes of Retention The idea of giving a child another year to "catch-up" and develop needed skills sounds like a positive alternative. However, research shows that outcomes for kids who are retained generally are not positive.
In its 2003 "Position Statement on Student Grade Retention," the National Association of School Psychologists (NASP) reports:
  • Academic achievement of kids who are retained is poorer than that of peers who are promoted.
  • Achievement gains associated with retention fade within two to three years after the grade repeated.
  • Kids who are identified as most behind are the ones "most likely harmed by retention."
  • Retention often is associated with increased behavior problems.
  • Grade retention has a negative impact on all areas of a child's achievement (reading, math, and language) and socio-emotional adjustment (peer relationships, self-esteem, problem behaviors and attendance).
  • Students who are retained are more likely to drop out of school compared to students who were never retained. In fact, grade retention is one of the most powerful predictors of high school dropout.
  • Retained students are more likely to have poorer educational and employment outcomes during late adolescence and early adulthood.
  • Retention is more likely to have benign or positive impact when students are not simply held back, but receive specific remediation to address skill and/or behavioral problems and promote achievement and social skills.
Kids with Learning Disabilities Many kids with learning disabilities (LD) really struggle when taking district-adopted and state-adopted achievement tests. These tests require students to:
  • Concentrate for long periods of time
  • Work independently
  • Persevere when faced with material they struggle to read and understand
  • Record their answers using "bubble sheets"
  • Work within specific time limits
Test results may not show what your child actually knows and can do. Instead, they may tell you how well she does on this type of test. When test scores are used as the only basis for whether a child will be promoted to the next grade, kids with LD can be at a great disadvantage.
Factors to Consider So, the big question is how you decide if retention is right for your child. Here are some questions to ask yourself:
Academic
  • In what area(s) is your child struggling the most — reading, writing, math, science, social studies, social skills or others? Is it just one subject or most of them?
  • What have you and the teachers done this year to help your child develop necessary skills?
  • What has worked and helped your child learn? What hasn't worked this year?
  • If your child were to spend another year in the same grade, what type of instruction would she receive in the areas she finds most difficult? Would a new teaching approach or new materials be used, or would the teacher do the same thing as last year? How do you know that "doing it over again" would make a difference?
  • What level of performance would you set for your child to achieve if she were retained? What changes would you need to see to be satisfied that retention was effective?
  • Realistically, will your child be able to meet the required standards to be promoted next year? What kind of change are you expecting in one year? Is that enough to make the retention worthwhile?
Social/Emotional
  • Is behavior a concern?
  • How will your child feel about being retained? Will she be more motivated to learn and try, or will she be embarrassed and further withdraw from learning?
  • What will happen to your child's peer supports and friendships? How will they be affected by retention?
Alternatives to Retention The National Association of School Psychologists favors "promotion plus" interventions designed to address the specific factors that place students at risk for school failure. With that in mind, here are questions to ask yourself about alternatives to grade retention:
  • Have you worked with your child's teacher to identify accommodations that could increase her success in the classroom? If interventions are working, will they be continued?
  • Is your child receiving extra support? Does she get one-on-one or small group help to understand new ideas and complete work?
  • If your child receives special education services, are her IEP goals and objectives/benchmarks related to the standards established by the school? If not, the IEP Team may need to revise them to focus on outcomes leading to promotion to the next grade.
  • What type of curriculum materials and instructional strategies does the teacher use? How effective are they with your child?
  • Could your child benefit from one-on-one tutoring or counseling?
  • Are options such summer school, extended day or extended year available?
  • Does your child resist your help with schoolwork? If so, find alternatives — have a sister or brother help with homework, get help from a high school or college student.
  • Does your child participate in the school's homework club or other school programs that provide support?
  • Would your child's participation in extracurricular activities, such as soccer, dance, scouts or choir, help her make friends and become more motivated to do better in school?
The Big Picture Before retaining your child, carefully consider your responses to the above questions. Read some of the literature on retention, and talk with your child and other family members. Speak to the teacher and other school staff who know your child. Talk to the principal about state law and district policy on retention to discover who makes the final decision and what the appeal process is. If your child receives special education services, be sure the IEP team is involved.
Whatever is decided, carefully monitor your child's academic and behavioral performance during the next year. Be sure to work closely with her teachers to ensure that you and the school are giving her the support she needs.
Updated April 2008

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Comments From GreatSchools.net Users
11/12/2008:
"If your child is struggling with core subjects (i.e. reading) in elementary school and is not 'at grade level', you are at an advantageous point where progress can rapidly be made. Consider homeschooling. Working one on one with your child, you can make greater gains in a short amount of time. I pulled my son from school in his third grade year (I could see that FCAT was going to be the focus of his studies and he was not getting the reading help he needed). When I pulled him he was reading at a 2.1 level, 7 months later (in May) he was reading a level 3.1! In August, I placed him back in school and by the end of the following academic year his reading was only at 3.2....I should have continued to homeschool. I did end up retaining him in 4th grade because I decided to place him in another school that is decidedly more academically challenging than the one he had attended and did not want him to start out at a disadvantage. It was the right decision. He has thrived a! nd continued to make progress in his new environment. Bottom line, do what is best for YOUR child (not what is best or easiest for their school or their teacher). Switch schools, homeschool, get a tutor, search for software/materials that you can use at home, or get your child tested and fight the school for the type of extra help your child needs. If retention doesn't make sense to you, don't do it....unless your child is failing everything, you do have a choice. And if they are and it still doesn't make sense, consider other options....cyberschool, homeschool, private school, etc."
10/31/2008:
"My son has just turned 8 in the first grade.I kept him back in kindergarden because I felt he was too immature to go into Gr1. Now in the first Gr his teacher is adamant that he should repeat the grade. Three quarter way through the school year she tells me that he is struggling. They have done no intervention with him, this has been left to me to brush up on the areas where he is struggling. She has said there have been some improvements but not enough to be promoted. I had him assessed by a psycologist who says that she feels that he should be promoted, my gut feeling is the same. I do not trust his teacher, I do not feel she has done anything to help him or address his learning difficulties, rather she has brushed me off lumping the blame else where rather than with her teaching style. What should I do? "
10/28/2008:
"So kids fail, and they are allowed to go on. How can they move on to more difficult material if they have not grasped the preceding material? It just does not make sense."
10/24/2008:
"As a student in the 12th grade my feedback may be essential or maybe not even worth reading. I feel that retention would have broken me in my highschool years. I think that failing should be an option, but not really an option. I think that in my situation I would not have been so embarrassed to go back a year (as a junior) but more frustrated because my maturity level is still far beyond those in their 20's. So with this in mind, I now attend PA Cyber Charter School, which I would like to advise is probably the best thing I have ever done with my life. The school is very helpful and understanding to my specific needs. I am not mentally challenged but i need extended time for assignments because I am also a single mother living on my own. The school offers online classes that you would attend regularly or self-teaching classes with a teacher to email with any questions. I again want to reiterate that failing should not be an option however redirection should be. By redirecti! on i mean maybe to enroll the student in cyberschool for a semester or an entire year to build skills such as time management, self-motivation, and to build self-confidence. Cyberschool is not always the best choice for all children but if successful, one will learn all of the formentioned or build to make them more croncrete skills and abilities. Thank you for your time. valerie bible"
10/21/2008:
"This is a very interesting issue to me. I've had enormous trouble though, finding straight forward legal information about things like this. Been to Wrightslaw...all the obvious sites and more. All i wanted to know was who had the absolute final say if there was a disagreement over a child being retained or promoted? I'm so confused about parents vs school system rights. Through all the info about procedure, I never seem to find the bottom line about who has final say about things. I find the schools tend to present things as if they're giving permission to parents, but from homeschooling experiences I know that many times parents don't need permission. I've never even fought a battle, I just want to know. "
09/3/2008:
"Thanks a lot for the useful research you have cited regarding grade retention, better known as class repetition in my country. This is the second time I have had to deal with the problem of deciding whether or not to allow my grandchild's school authorities to retain him in the class where he was in the previous year. As an educationist and economist, I have always questioned the the desirability og grade repetition on grounds of efficiency, considering it as a waste of resources. However, two years ago, I allowed the school to retain this grandson of mine only to realise that the repetition neither improved his test scores nor did it motivate him to learn. This year, the school has again decided that he should be retained in his pervious grade. This compelled me to to write the headteacher expressing my disapproval using conclusions from research done in the 1980s to support my argument. That is one reason why I am happy that you have provided more recent conclusions on the issue of grade retention which I can use to further argue my case in favour promoting my grandson. Thanks also for providing a framework that has helped me reassure myself that I have acted correctly by refusing to approve the retention of my grandchild in his previous grade. Sincerely yours, Albert "
08/25/2008:
"Hi I have a 13 Yr old son that is repeating 6th grade this yr , he is ADHD and is a big boy . I did'nt send him back to his school i transfer him to another school . Because i feel he did'nt get the right teachers to help him learn . they saw him as a out of control student kept puting him in iss instead of helping him learn. There was one time I spoke to his teacher and told her that he was on meds for ADHD she told me that was just a excuse for him not to do his work . Thank you CONCERN MOM"
08/6/2008:
"I believe holding back a student a full grade not only diminishes his or her own self-steem, also, makes them feel as if they cannot succeed. Personally, I went back a school grade because of my limited verbal and writing skills in the English language. It felt terrible but I overcame the feeling and today, I'm currently and literaly in college right now, from which my curiousity led me to read the article, and my eloquence to share my opinion. Going back a grade is not the answer. As a student, I know there are teachers who believe we do not have the ability of learning when most of us do not achieve high scores in tests. The truth is, there are students who need that initial 'push' that motivates them to succeed. We don't get motivated, we don't find the class attractive and challenging, and we give up on it. The key to avoid retention is motivation. My point of view."
07/31/2008:
"I have been a teacher for just over one year. I felt pressure to hold a child back last year because of the lack of work he did. No subject was affecting his learning more than his lack of home support. She had no desire at this time to move on. I think this is a dificult desision to be made at any level. We are asking parents to support our observations in academics by holding their child back. I personally was passed on in school no matter what kind of work I did. When I graduated High School the world did me a great dis-service. I had not even read an entire book by this time. I decided that everyone was wrong about my future, so I bucked up and started working my way through college. I made it with good grades. I felt like the efforts I put into anything could make me succeed in whatever I wanted to do. The time is yours, make your choice to do something great today."
06/16/2008:
"I have 6 year old twin girls, Twin 1 is right at level (according to the DRA scores) and Twin 2 slightly below level. The teacher of the one below level wants to retain her and I am totally against it! When we met in March, I requested that that Twin 2 get extra help. Her teacher stated that she would personally help Twin 2 and that addtional help wasnt necessary. She informed me that Twin 2 was improving and 'should be' at level by years end, no problem. A few weeks later that teacher was put on bedrest and a substitute came in. Based on the improvement I was seeing at home everything seemed to be going well. Then Friday, which was the last day of school I get reports cards. Twin 1 promoted to 2nd grade, Twin 2 not! I was SHOCKED! I got no warning. Twin 2 didnt even know and she cried the entire weekend. They are both going to summer school and I've contacted both Kumon & Sylvan for tutors. I do not want to allow them to hold Twin 2 back for 2 main reasons, 1. she has impro! ved at a rapid pace over the last 3 months & 2. her self-esteem. The way she cried when she found out was devestaing to me. Being a twin and not in the same grade as her sister would just shatter her self-confidence. I actually think it would do more harm than good to keep her back. What do you all think?"
06/2/2008:
"I am a school corporation administrator. I have seen both the positives and the negatives of retention. Children grow, mature and learn at different rates. There is no one answer to what is best. School administrators need to take a look at each child as an individual and consider the circumstances that a child may be dealing with. If there are personal isues that the child is struggling with take that into consideration. Often children may be experiencing personal difficulties that the teacher may not be aware of. It is time to realize that not all children do the same things at the same times and realize that there may be a few years that students are working at different paces and levels. My experience in education and the research support the idea that students will level out, the majority. Retention is a plausible answer when all factors and options have been considered and tried. It is not the first answer, it should be the last. School teachers and administrators know! before the end of a school year whether or not a child is struggling-or they should know. As a parent the first question shoud be what has been to to assist the child. The second should be what else can WE do. The parent should be involved from the first thought that retention might be necessary. Parents, teachers and administrators need to work together to meet the needs of children, that is why we are all here. Retention should not be used as a threat for then it becoes a punishment for not performing up to someone standards. The question is whether or not the child is able to perform. Yes, even preschool and kindergarten have some academic expectations, but just maybe we expect too much from chilkdren thatare developing and growing at different rates. There is no right or wrong answer that can apply to all. Each child is individual with individual needs to be met. Age, academics, behavior are all just factors of the bigger picture. Work together and make an informed de! cision...after trying interventions. If retention is the answe! r, then work with the child to help rebuild the lost self esteem that may result. Work with the child and the parents to look at alternateives for catching the child up academically to the right grade if it is based upon maturity and development. There are options, and kids are why we are here, be a functional team of decision makers. This is not about educators versus parents...that makes the educators and parents as immature as the children they are discussing. If we put the child in the center of all decisions made, then the right decisions result."
06/2/2008:
"My son is in the 8th grade, I wanted him retained and it's not that he has low scores on tests he is lazy hands work in and loses the crdit because it was not handed in on time. studies here and there. I have had hin in Slyvan he is still behind and gosh they are very high ! so what can I do ???"
05/5/2008:
"RETENTION IS UP TO PARENTS, STUDENT, AND SCHOOL (INCL. COUNSELOR) TOGETHER; THE 3 SHOULD SAT DOWN DESPITE AMOUNT OF TIME NEEDED TO GO OVER PROS AND CONS. IF THE CHILD IS NOT ACADEMICALLY PREPARED, MEANING 'FAILED EVERYTHING', 4-6WKS. OR MORE OUT 0F THE 6-6WKS., THEN HE OR SHE SHOULD BE HELD BACK OR SUMMER SCHOOLED. BEHAVIOR SHOULD NOT EVEN PLAY A ROLE IN RETENTION; IT'S OBSURED! STATISTICALLY SPEAKING AND FROM PERSONAL PARENT KNOWLEDGE, BEHAVIOR COMES WITH AGE AND TEACHERS AND PARENTS NEED TO COME UP WITH IDEAS TO CONTROL THIS PROBLEM. MY SON'S K TEACHER, PRINCIPAL, AND 1ST GRADE TEACHER WORKED WITH US CONCERNING BEHAVIOR AND THEY WILL ALWAYS BE DEAR TO OURS HEARTS; AND MY CHILD TALKS ABOUT THEM NONE STOP!! THANK GOD!!!!!"
05/1/2008:
"We decided my son was not ready for kindergartern so we kept him in pre K an extra year. His birthday is Sept 2 1999. He went to Pre K at 2 diffrent schools. Both were highly qualified programs. He began Kindergarten when he was 6. Now he is in the 2 nd grade and his grades are not good. His teachers have been working very hard all year to help him. J|He has made a numerous amount of progress. But, he has to stay another year in 2nd grade. Now we are looking at 19 years old graduating from high school. Today my husband and I have to tell him he did not pass his placement test. I wish there was something that could have been done in 1st grade. He lost a huge foundation in 1st grade. I new after 3 weeks of school my son and his teacher's personalities were not going to click. Needles to say they just passed him. He is not a strong reader and now we are playing catch up. He is a very intellegent child! I just hope and pray for the best. "
04/30/2008:
"Our seven year old grandson was retained in kindergarten. He and his sister are in the same first grade class in a very small rural school. His sister excels in all academic areas. He continues to have difficulty with reading, and is imature for his age. The teacher is suggesting that he be retained once again. The school does not offer special education classes or one on one services. His mother tries to work with him without distractions and he refuses to stay on task. I agree that another retention for him is probably not the answer for his learning difficulties. I will share your article regarding retention with our grandson's parents . We want them to beable to make the best decision for him and find possible options other than retention. Thank you for addressing this issue. "
04/28/2008:
"Thank you for this informative email. We retained our first child in another state and he's doing much better. He says that he wished he would be in a higher grade next year, but... he would also like to have the grades he has now. The year we kept him back wasn't a big success, but this present year he's much more responsible and his grades are the best they've been in years. His brother is now going through the same things. He doesn't want to do his work, but.... everyone envolved knows he's very capable. So... what to do?"
04/22/2008:
"I am so happy for this information. I never was a believer that kids should repeat grades. I feel that once a child starts having difficulties in a certain area, it is the child's teacher and the parent need to work together to help the child improve. I know in my district they are starting to have conversations about possibly having children repeat grades. This should not be the first course of action by any means. The idea of being left back is demoralizing for kids. It is a stigma that is hard to shake. If discussions are starting to happen where it may be a possibility that a child may need to repeat a grade, it should be agreed upon by an informed parent and the district. Repeating a grade should be the last resort. I for one would not favor this being common practice. I believe this is a reflection of the the teachers and the school administration."
04/22/2008:
"I really am glad to see this article. I agree one hundred percent as an educator and a mom that retention is most likely not the right thing to do. I do believe that education has changed drastically and based on these changes we truly need to differentiate the educational process for each individual child. And we definately need to look at alternative methods of intervention such as literacy teachers, math coaches, and writing coaches working one on one with those students who is in need. Recognize however that this means more money. Retention may just mean repeating if nothing is actually put in place to develop needed outcomes for the student."
04/21/2008:
" As a kindergarten teacher I feel that if a child is struggling academically he/she would greatly benefit from another year in K. If it is socially I would recommend sending them to first. As a child gets older some of the points that were brought up in retention and drop-outs makes sense and that is why it is better to catch them early. I did like the information that was in teh article. Thanks for theinfo."
04/21/2008:
"I'm so glad to hear what was just said about grade retention. My daughter is in kindergarten and her teacher doesn't think she is ready for 1st grade, due to some low test grade scores. That weren't even that low. On all of her class work she does really good, but all those test for the 'no child left behind' is weighting on her. She tells me sometimes she gets tired and forgets. I think she is doing very well. She does her homework on her own without any problems or hesitation. I just think that she should not be retained, if she wasn't doing well I would get her tutoring not retain her. I don't think that is a good idea for kids that have really put forth an effort. My son struggled from k-3rd and his kindergarten teacher want to hold him back also and I said no. He is now in the 4th grade getting A's and B's he also scored advance in math on the state's Meap test. So thank you for this article it was really up lifting. "
04/18/2008:
"My son's birthday is in November so he started school at 4 instead of 5. Although he stands 6 feet tall he is an under acheiver who struggles with both reading and writing. He does however excellling in math. I have felt since 3rd grade that I put him in school to early. He is graduating 8th grade and I don't feel he is ready for highschool. We are relocating to another state. I think this would be a perfect time to right my wrong. I just don't know if it would improve his attitude toward school. My question is: Can you suggest a place for us to have an professional weigh all the fact and give us the pros and cons."
04/18/2008:
"I find it annoying that no article I have read about retention (and I read quite a few in 2004 when we were considering retaining our kindergartener), including this one, distinguishes between age groups. It's obvious that the social repercussions of being retained are going to be greater for a 7th grader than a kindergartener--but how much greater? It's obvious that once a child is older than 8 or 9, the issues involved are probably not 'developmental,' so retention after a certain age, without more, is going to be counterproductive. But are there 'true' developmental issues that a 4, 5 , or 6 year old may be having that is making it hard for her to read in kindergarten and for which retaining the child might be helpful in the long run? We did retain our child, he did much better the next year--was able to learn to read without all the torture that had occurred the year before--but even now in 3rd grade is ashamed that he is old for his grade and was 'held back.' I wil! l never know if we did the right thing, but this article does not help. Emily Rich"
04/18/2008:
"My 7 year old daughter is repeating 1st grade right now and it was the best decision we could have made for her.Last year she struggled with reading,writing,math,and social interaction.She hated going to school and would often fake sick so she could stay home,and come home from school.This year she is at the top of her class she has many friends,and loves to go to school!Her teachers last year were very supportive we had many specialists helping her.They had lots of meetings with us on what we think would work to help her learn and grow.And they always kept us well informed on progress.Her teachers never pushed us to retain her it was our decision and hers.And we are all very happy with the outcome!"
04/18/2008:
"I have to admit reading the article on repeating a grade made me feel sick to my stomache. My son was told that he would have to repeat Kindergarten because he can't read on his own. The teacher told me that socialy and emotionaly he was ready but academicaly he was not. I agree with his teacher. What child wants to sit in a classroom and fail at everything they do. I know first hand how it feels to sit in a classroom and not know what the teacher is talking about! I was suppose to repeat the fourth grade but for whatever reasons my parents were against it! The kids made fun of me and socially did not accept me. I had no friends it was awful. I am 30 years old now and I still remeber how it feels to be in a classroom where no one liked you. I think no child should be pushed into anything. If they are not ready they are not ready. They will learn a their own pace!!!!!"
04/18/2008:
"I have a daughter that is in the 10th grade who refuses to go to school. She will show up for some classes a couple days out of the week. We have worked with the counselor at the school and have taken everything we possible can away from her but she has her heart set on not going to school. She has passed part of the exit exam for high schoolers and could have passed the entire thing if she would just go to school. She's playing this role right now and I feel retention will hold her accountable for her actions to show her you can't just not skate throught life. Yes education is stressed highly in the home we keep telling her get your education so that you may choose your job don't let you job choose you. When you have the education you know what you want to do and be able to fulfill that dream. Uneducated you are crying about the job you have and wishing you could have tried. Retention is a must."
04/18/2008:
"I have twin boys now in six grade. They are identical, but do due a condition during pregnancy called Twin-Twin Transfusion Syndrome one was born 2 1/2 pounds smaller than the other. Because of this, learning is sometimes harder for the smaller twin. In kindergarten, the smaller twin's teacher thought he should be held back, while the other twin was doing well. We could not hold one back and not the other so we invested in tutoring to help him catch up. It has worked out fine and both boys made the Principal's Honor Roll last quarter. I think the bigger problem is that as November babies they started school earlier than they should have. In California the birhtday cutoff date for starting school is Dec. 2. My twins preschool teachers assured us they were ready the first year they were eligilble. The school we have them in now is changing their cutoff date to September 1. I think this is better for kids. Especially when the expectations for achievement have been pushed higher and higher. If we are going to ask more and more of our children in elementary school, then preschool needs to last longer. Lyn_Marie"
04/18/2008:
"I chose to have my 2nd grader held back last year mainly because she was struggling in learning the material. It was so bad for her that homework was a chore, she would cry at home and in class because she couldn't grasp the concepts. I believe she guessed a lot b/c if she did well on a test I'd ask her to explain how she got the right answer and she couldn't. She was passing w/C's and I knew she could do better. Math was her worst subject. Her self esteem was sunk. Fast forward to this year, she's a totally different child; she went from all C's to A's and B's. Above all her confidence is through the roof! She believes she can learn and excel now. No more emotional crying in class and she tells everyone that math is her favorite subject! She's a mid-August baby and last year she was the youngest person in her class, now she's right on track age-wise w/ her classmates. I'm glad I decided to place her in the right grad now than later."
04/18/2008:
"i am going through the question now with my 9 yr old son who seems to have no interest in school what so ever although and we do make it very clear that your education the the most important th it did not used to be that way he really liked k-2 they would tell me that he needed extra help in math so i would give the extra help in that area and then when i would go for another teacher conference she would say he needed help in reading it an you will ever do was an ongoing thang but it did not seem to bother him well now he is in 3rd grade and my personal feeling because of the higher standards now that k-2 do nothingto prepare them for 3rd grade at all i have done the sap meetings with the school and remediation and th teacher even wants me to have him tested for add since she fills that is that is the problem although the teacher is very negative and will talk very negative while my son is in the room i have a question i am in north carolina do i or the school have the righ! t to hold him back "
04/18/2008:
"My 2 boys were held back in the same year but it was a turbulent year emotionally in the household as my wife and I were having problems and the boys were in different states and schools in the same year. Things have calmed down over time and I know that the problems in the house hurt them in school. They are both doing well now A's and B's. A steady home life and environment are important for children to do well in school. If they are distracted or upset at home, this will carry over to school. There was no parental choice as to whether or not they should be retained, it was decided by the school. I regret the problems at home affected them and wish they had not been forced to repeat a grade level. They are old enough now to realize what happened and they talk about wishing they were at the proper grade level. It did create a social hardship for them."
04/18/2008:
"As a kindergarten teacher, I am very disappointed in this article. I truly do not feel like it is good advice for parents of early childhood students. It was obviously not written by anyone who has any classroom experience. It makes me so sad that parents are so grateful for this advice! Almost as if they are grasping for a lifeline to not have to take their child’s teacher’s advice! Are these parents against retention for their own personal reasons? Do they think “What will they neighbors think?” “Is this a reflection on my gene pool?” “Why has the teacher singled my child out for retention?” So they tell the teacher “They will just bored if they are retained.” They say “It will hurt their self esteem.” “I am going to get a tutor and they will mature over the summer break.” I have been a first grade and now a kindergarten teacher for many years and have my masters in early childhood education. I have NEVER seen a child not benefit from being retained in kindergart! en. I have seen some (not most) parents refuse to listen to the teacher’s advice on retention in kindergarten and then have their child go on to first grade still sucking their thumb and wetting their pants! Then I see the same child lose their self esteem, start to feel like failures because they are getting bad grades and have difficulty socially interacting with peers because of their maturity. Now those same parents that said “They will just bored if they are retained.” and “It will hurt their self esteem.” . . . sees the light because they have heard repeatedly from other teachers year after year that their child is having difficulty. Not only that, but they see their child struggling to keep up and make friends! So they eventually decide to retain them in third or fourth grade! By this time retention is so much harder for their child. This just breaks my heart as a kindergarten teacher! If your child is in an early childhood grade give your child a GIFT o! f retention. Allow them to develop naturally at their own ra! te and d o not push them into a grade that they are not ready for. In kindergarten, some of our children are eleven months older than our late summer birthdays. Would we expect an eleven month old baby to do the same things that an infant is doing? Your child can still get into Harvard if they were retained in kindergarten! "
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